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Essay / Divorce - 1095
The components of marriage in relation to divorce today"... the greater acceptance of divorce by society may itself contribute to the decline of marital happiness. A study published in the Journal of Family Issues recently concluded that "by adopting attitudes that provide greater freedom to end unsatisfactory marriages, people increasingly risk having their marriages become unsatisfying in the long run. “It seems the divorce culture feeds on itself, creating a one-way spiral of unhappiness and failure.” - David Brenner In a society where gradually, thanks to technology, everything becomes easier for us; marriage ends up being one of the only difficulties that is not simplified by the progress of society. Therefore, in a way, our culture adapts the idea that marriage must also be simple, otherwise it must end. There is no such thing as a “Disney World” package wedding, but unfortunately, many people believe there is. Many couples believe that the entire marriage will be as "perfect" as the first year, but later discover otherwise. In fact, marriage takes work. Many leave the current situation in search of another, but soon realize that "the grass is not greener on the other side." And the trend continues: “Americans love to get married, but half of our marriages fail. Then we change partners and remarry, with roughly the same chances of success. - Amy Dickinson In two of the three synoptic gospels (Mark 10:2-12 and Luke 16:18), Jesus states that divorce is unacceptable and that remarriage is tantamount to adultery. He also says that once a man and a woman are united, they should not separate (Rubio, 166). Although the Bible says so, what does a spouse do when experiencing abuse in a marriage? As noble as it may be to try to “solve” issues to save a marriage, I firmly believe in getting out of any sort of abusive relationship or situation, especially when there are children involved. Even if children do not see violence directly, they unfortunately see the effects it has on those who are abused. Unfortunately, it has been shown that there is a cycle when it comes to violence and, in some ways, it usually does not end. Abuse can include not only hitting husband and wife, but also forcing one or the other to have sex when they are not in the mood, or humiliating each other in front of others...