Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. As with 50% of American citizens, it usually ends in divorce. But what if they have children? Finances are divided, just like families going through divorce. But it's not always as bad as people make it out to be. Children who have experienced divorce emerge more independent, more adaptable and can even become closer to members of their family. Divorce isn't always as bad as people portray it. It is commonly believed that divorce is not a good thing for a family. But being in a bad relationship can have more negative effects on a child than divorce. In a study of 98 couples who subsequently divorced, 80% of their children felt that their parents' separation was a good decision. Of the 20% who felt it was not a good decision, most came from more violent families. Being together in a bad relationship can actually cause more harm than good. Parents generally believe that staying together for the sake of their children will eliminate negative effects and help their children thrive. However, they see their parents' discontent creating a more tense environment. Provided parents are abusive or more vocal about their opinions, this can actually create a traumatic environment around the child, making them feel constantly unsafe or shy. What the minority of people know is that divorce can actually give positive vibes to children. Divorce can teach children to focus on the positives and keep moving forward in life. In a book by Harper Collins, it is said (We Are Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents' Divorce) that "children generally emerge wiser despite—or perhaps because of" – of their complex history.” Multiple studies have proven, children who have experienced divorce emerge middle of paper......this is the economy we live in today, relationships with others are important. This means whether with relatives, friends, associates or colleagues; we need beneficial relationships to succeed. In every divorce there are doubts. But overcoming them is what makes us stronger. Learning from our mistakes and adapting to our situations is what makes people great. Divorce hasn't affected children in the past, so why do people think it affects us so badly now? Why do they think that having gone through difficult times makes us fragile? These are the questions I ask people. This is also the question they struggle to answer. Divorce does not make a child fragile, but more independent, more adaptable and can make their relationships with family members/parents even stronger than before. Why focus on the negatives when you can focus on the positives.