The first is violence, whether physical or emotional. Violent actions never happen in my family. Even though my parents will say it, there was no physical contact or emotional abuse. I cannot tolerate a man beating a woman or a woman beating a man, and I think it is extremely inappropriate for this to happen between two adults. If my future boyfriend or husband beats me once, I will break up or divorce immediately because after it happens once, it's going to happen two, three times and more. My other cousin was a victim of domestic violence growing up. Her parents are grumpy, so if she doesn't follow their rules, she gets beaten or slapped. Now, she has a little difficulty maintaining relationships with others and she cannot control her emotions well. I think this is linked to the violence she experienced directly. As a result, violence is the main thing I cannot accept at present.