The values ​​and rules of the traditional community add a lot of pressure on an individual's shoulder when choosing his identity. Certainly, women have relatively more freedom than before, but the values ​​of traditional communities create an invisible barrier between their choices. This put young women in a disconcerting situation regarding their sexual freedom. Bell demonstrates how mixed messages are given to young women, she writes that "their peers, television shows like Sex and the City, and movies seem to encourage sexual experimentation... But at the same time, books, like Unhooked and A Return to Modesty advise them to return to the court practices of the early 1900s” (27). This kind of media demonstration of what a woman's character should be psychologically creates rules for young women. These rules are contradictory and impossible to follow. Young women struggle to follow these rules which lead them to the idea of ​​division. Young women make the difficult decision to separate, which means they separate the lifestyle choices they may have and choose one. Bell argues that "the contradictions and uncertainties that characterize the lives of young women today lead many of them to systematically resort to certain unconscious defenses to resolve their internal conflicts and anxiety, often to their detriment." »(28). Splitting is the unconscious defense they choose to resolve the complications linked to the traditional rules of their respective communities. Alicia and Jayanthi were also part of the split; they choose the path that appealed to them at that moment. They could not obtain their true identity because they failed to express their true identity. They chose a path and wanted to experience that path as much as they could because in their minds, they are not allowed to do so.