If you are getting married, Catholic or not, you need to read Marriage is for Good. Each chapter presents a different topic on how to focus your marriage with your husband, wife, and God at the center. Each section contains thought-provoking questions for you and your partner and allows you to think about how you will grow as a person in your marriage. There are some difficult points in this book. A must read, whether you're about to get married or already married and want to find what's missing. The chapter on roles in marriage is particularly interesting and difficult. Kippley very thoughtfully presents the notion of wives deferring to their husbands, but also notes that this is countercultural in the United States of America. He notes that men must be worthy of the spiritual leadership of their families if they truly want to lead. How many times have you heard “when children come, the marriage ends”. New parents are routinely warned that once a baby comes into the picture, nothing will ever be the same. Budding parents are upset because the opponents are seasoned parents who know what they are talking about. These veterans prophesy disaster and sadness with the baby and a fun outing. Gone are the sleep, leisure, nights out, friends, laziness, sex and finally the marriage dissolves. We believe that children are detrimental to marriage because giving a child prevents us from spending time maintaining our image. We are supposed to look like vibrant, vital, beautiful people. Achieving this image is hard work and requires a lot of time maintaining one's beauty, shopping for clothes, exercising, and socializing. When we do such activities, we receive admiration and applause from our peers. Raising children offers no such external rewards. There are no medals, paychecks, or fame attached to being a babysitter. And in our current society, this makes this position insignificant. When there is no value in educating, there can be no value in being a child. Never make the mistake of thinking the child doesn't know this. Children know that they are considered annoying and boring. They see their parents devoting their time to what is important to them; jobs, social events, hobbies, and other external means by which they are validated. Instead of nuisances, children should indeed be seen as a celebration of marriage..